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E. 9 Calling All Control Freaks!

January 21, 2022 • Phyllis and Julie • Season 1 • Episode 9

Hello So Deep Peeps!

Welcome to That’s So Deep. This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time. Today we are CALLING ALL CONTROL FREAKS!

Some deep things we cover:

What is the relationship between uncertainty and control?
What makes control freaks so freaky? The answer: anxiety
Primary Control and Secondary Control: Do you try to change the world to fit yourself or do you try to change yourself to fit the world?
How does our control make the people in our lives feel? It makes them feel like we don’t trust them. And if we can’t trust then how can we truly love?
Control vs. Surrender: AKA print out the Serenity Prayer, tape it on your mirror and recite it EVERY. DAMN. DAY. (See resources below)

Take-aways:

Wait out the stress cycle instead of jumping in to control someone’s actions. Try some of the tips on the Distress Tolerance Skills worksheet to help you get through it.
Remember that you have your own Thoughts, Feelings, Actions loop. Allow others to have their own loop and allow people to go through their own process.
Make a Borrowed Rules list. Do you still follow the rules you were taught? Which rules continue to be worth following and which ones don’t?

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Phyllis & Julie

Resources and articles we referenced in the episode: