E. 28 - Vulnerability - Part 1: What it is and what it isn't

Hello So Deep Peeps!  

Welcome to That’s So Deep.  This is the podcast where we try to root out loneliness one conversation at a time. Today we are talking about Vulnerability - Part 1: What it is and What it isn’t (based on work by Brene Brown)

 Some deep things we cover:

1. TW: Phyllis and Julie share some raw thoughts and feelings after the school shooting in Uvalde.  Please take care of yourselves and skip the first 8 minutes of the podcast if you need some space to process. 
2. There is No Courage Without Vulnerability: Brene Brown defines “vulnerability” as uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure.
3. Vulnerability in the Workplace: Being invulnerable at work can hamper connection with coworkers and yet being overly vulnerable can hijack productivity.  Vulnerability can be appropriate in a work setting with the right boundaries.  
4. Vulnerability Without Boundaries is Not Vulnerability.
5. The Messy House: Sometimes when we are overwhelmed we are a bit like a messy house.  We overshare because we don’t have a good grasp on our “stuff” so it can spill out onto people. 
6. The Mask: What is the mask we put on to protect ourselves instead of showing up as our authentic selves? 
7. You Don’t Need to Cry to be Vulnerable
8. The Color Spectrum of Authenticity: If we imagine ourselves as a color, showing up as our authentic selves can mean showing up in a different shade depending on the relationship and the moment.  

 Take-aways:

Vulnerability = Sharing with Boundaries + Intention of Connection
Remember that vulnerability is not emotional dumping or oversharing.  Before you share something personal figure out your intention.  Is what you’re about to share something that will help build a stronger connection with your friend?  And is this relationship an appropriate one to share at this level of depth?  

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Yours in Becoming, 

Phyllis & Julie

Resources and articles we referenced in the episode:

1. "Vulnerable"  - Merriam-Webster
2. Taken for Granted: Brené Brown on What Vulnerability Isn't (transcript) | TED
3. Brené Brown on What Vulnerability Isn't - Taken for Granted

Ways to advance solutions to end gun violence: 

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• Moms Demand Action
• Everytown for Gun Safety 
• Brady Campaign